It’s funny, but the social acceptability of being in an “open relationship” still intimidates me. All of our personal friends know about our thing, but I definitely keep mum about it at work. I’ve worked at the same large company for almost five years, but I’ve confided in only a handful of colleagues — like 3-4 out of thousands. People are rarely scandalized, but it does seem like it has the potential to shake people’s reality on what “love” is supposed to mean. As comfortable as I am with our lifestyle, this blog is as close as I’ve come to wanting to advocate for open love.
This comes to mind because I just notice that a cute girl who’s captured my attention of late lists herself on Facebook as being in an open relationship. Wife listed us like that there for a few days a while back, and a couple of friends send me notes at the time “You know you’ve outted yourself on Facebook?!” I recommended to her we go back to regular “married” for our online identities.
Hence, also, the anonymity of this blog.
I remember back when Friendster was hip (briefly in, what, 2003?) and it seemed every cute young thing in Brooklyn listed themselves as in an open relationship, and I was amazed. After pinging a few, I realized they were all doing so as a joke because they thought the option was so ridiculous that it was ironic to do so.
I’m hoping my new Facebook buddy is living in a post-ironic age.